The Things We Do

Often throughout life, as I am happily enjoying myself, doing the exact thing that I chose to do at that moment, for some reason, some people will come up to me and ask me why I am doing that thing I am doing. Whether it is playing a video game, going for a walk, reading a book, working on a website, watching TV or anything else I do, for some reason, some people feel that I should have something better to do at that particular moment.

Often once somebody decides that I should not be doing the thing I actually want to do, they will offer recommendations of the things they feel I should be doing, using language such as, “You should do this” or “You should do that”.

I have a hard time understanding this mentality that causes them to guide me away from the thing that I wanted to do, and into a direction that I chose not to go.

Where do they get such vast knowledge of what I like? How can they feel that their idea of what I should be doing is actually superior to my own opinion on the subject?

Am I actually supposed to take advice on what I should be doing with my time, from someone who can find nothing better to do with their time then tell others what to do?

People do the things they do, because after all the weighing of all the choices they can think of, they chose that as the best possible course for them.

We are all different, we all have different goals, and we all want to do different things. Whatever a person chooses to do themselves, is decided with the unparalleled knowledge of self, and only they can choose the very true best thing that they should be doing.

We do what we do, because that’s what we chose to do.

I heard the below song a few months after writing this post, and thought I would share it here.

The Raconteurs – You Don’t Understand Me

You don’t understand me
But if the feeling was right
You might comprehend me
And why do you feel the need to tease me
Why don’t you turn it around
It might be easier to please me

And there’s always another point of view
A better way to do the things we do
And how can you know me
And I know you.
If nothing is true

Why do you think that you are doing
But who is the fool, the fool or the fool
that you are fooling.
And maybe I just don’t see the reason
But in the corner of my heart your ignorance is treason.

And there’s always another point of view
A better way to do the things we do
And how can you know me
And I know you.
If nothing is true

You think you know how I feel
Its not that big of a deal
There’s no such thing its not real
Oh-Oh

You don’t understand me
But if the feeling was right
You might comprehend me
And I don’t claim to understand you
But I’ve been looking around
And I haven’t found, anybody like you

And there’s always another point of view
A better way to do the things we do
And how can you know me
And I know you
If nothing is true

  1. nothingprofound
    Feb 19th, 2014 at 13:49
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    It’s sad isn’t it, Scott? Instead of being happy we’re enjoying ourselves, people want to change us and give us advice. It’s a kind of human disease, this butting into other people’s business.

    • PBScott
      Feb 19th, 2014 at 13:58
      Reply | Quote | #2

      Hi NP,

      Yeah it is kind of like a sickness. Do you think it it is a form of self righteousness?

  2. melody kia
    Feb 19th, 2014 at 20:45
    Reply | Quote | #3

    Great Post! Relatable like a song…

    • PBScott
      Feb 19th, 2014 at 21:00
      Reply | Quote | #4

      @Melody
      Yeah the song really fits it well doesn’t it. Kind of reminds me of the saying that somewhere in time, everything has been thought of before, by someone.

  3. Kris Landt
    Feb 21st, 2014 at 10:17
    Reply | Quote | #5

    Great blogpost and great choice of songs, Scott. Yep, busybodies are a total drag. Why people feel the need to butt in and try to impose their way of doing things on others is beyond me.

    • PBScott
      Feb 21st, 2014 at 11:04
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      @Kris
      I wonder if they do it because you’re in their field of vision. I guess they can’t really see themselves, can they?

  4. Janene
    Feb 21st, 2014 at 11:10
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    But why do people waste time when they could be doing something productive? Why waste their talents that way? 😉 If people focused on happiness more and getting ahead less, I bet you wouldn’t hear that question as often.

    • PBScott
      Feb 21st, 2014 at 12:08
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      @Janene
      I think you just hit the nail on the head, some people don’t see being happy as productive, and maybe even destructive. Money seems to be the only goal of many people. It does defiantly show something about the way they think.

  5. Dean Martin
    Feb 23rd, 2014 at 02:56
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    We humans are a strange bunch. lol. Sometimes it’s out of curiosity and sometimes I think it’s one trying to make a connection…then there’s the control freaks. Just let me be please…

  6. PBScott
    Mar 26th, 2014 at 21:10

    @Dean
    It’s the control freaks that get to me the most. Yes please let us all be.

  7. Lisa
    Apr 30th, 2015 at 08:55

    What are those un-solicited advice givers doing with their own lives?

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